What do you do when you just can’t get away? You can create your plan, create boundaries, and practice your resilience muscle, but sometimes there is no avoiding a challenging person or situation. You may see things in your mind’s eye, and then when you get there, it...
Have you ever heard a phrase that explains so much? It ties together what you’ve been feeling and experiencing, like putting the cherry on top of a sundae. For me, it was hearing “let go or be dragged” for the first time, when I was regularly attending 12-step...
Resilience reminds me of beautiful flowers that grow out of the cracks in the pavement. Finding fuel and sustenance where others may find none. Growing tall and mighty, showing their brilliance to the world. There’s a certain elasticity to their being. Finding and...
Unlike the magic of chocolate and peanut butter, holidays and expectations aren’t necessarily the same marriage made in heaven. Memories of holidays past can make what’s approaching feel like a burden. Yes, I hear your, “Thanks but I don’t need the reminder. They’re...
The holidays are upon us. Like it or not. For some, they’re a time of happy gatherings. For others, not so much. Beginning today and every Tuesday through New Year’s Eve, I’ll be sharing ways to thrive rather than survive through the holidays, with grace. Because...
Time is irrelevant when we’re on a journey. It takes as long as it takes. I was stepping into uncharted territory. The uncertainty now my choice. Rather than entering a front door where many days I didn’t know what I was stepping in to, locking the front door for the...
“The mountains are calling” was the whisper I heard. I knew it was time to move from NJ, but where to go? There was a comfort in the walls of my house, even though I knew it was time. Comfort in not ripping apart my whole life after my divorce. I stayed and made the...
After a relationship comes to an end, we think about and focus on the end. The myriad of reasons why things didn’t work out. Or maybe the primary reason being the other person’s addiction. The end lumps it into a bucket and it feels like we’re throwing out the...
September was National Recovery Month. I saw nothing about it on social media. No ads. No posts. Nada. If you had heard something about it, would you have paid attention? There’s a love-hate relationship with the word recovery. People who have found sobriety will...
Do you ask – Is this all my life will be? Will it ever get any better? Have you became resolved to your life? Do you hate that he's drinking every day, but you've became accustomed to it? Is this your normal? Does the thought of stepping into another relationship that...