Boundaries

Having strong energetic boundaries and knowing how to not take on the energy from those around you, without putting up hard walls, is an art. It's not about shutting off the world. Rather, it's owning what's yours. Being responsible with your own energy ripples into the world around you and teaches others through example.

Creating strong energetic boundaries is one of the most important things you may do for yourself. The people around you may not exhibit healthy boundaries and it's not your responsibility to manage them or to smooth things over so they feel comfortable. The discernment of knowing what is and isn't yours is vital to keeping your sanity. A question to ponder: Who are the people you spend the most time with, and when you're with them or after you're with them, how do you feel? Answering this may highlight some potential shifts with who you surround yourself with.

Many grew up in families where emotions and feelings weren't expressed in healthy ways. If you're a highly sensitive person, you may naturally pick up the expressed and unexpressed emotions of those around you. Boundaries are rarely taught, and instead, how to create them is learned through experience. Are there people that seem to spark certain emotions when you're with them, or does it feel like they suck the energy out of you? When you look objectively, you may begin to see patterns with certain people.

Creating strong energetic boundaries is one of the most important things you may do for yourself. The people around you may not exhibit healthy boundaries and it's not your responsibility to manage them or to smooth things over so they feel comfortable. The discernment of knowing what is and isn't yours is vital to keeping your sanity. A question to ponder: Who are the people you spend the most time with, and when you're with them or after you're with them, how do you feel? Answering this may highlight some potential shifts with who you surround yourself with.

If you grew up with everyone being in each others space, the tendency to take on the energy of what's around you may be a natural extension of your earlier years. You only have so much energy to expend, and when you take on the energies of what's around you, you also leak your own power. If you feel yourself consistently drained by certain people or locations, it's a signal to perhaps step back and assess how you can either spend less time there, or mentally prepare yourself ahead of time to not take on what's not yours.

Creating strong energetic boundaries is one of the most important things you may do for yourself. The people around you may not exhibit healthy boundaries and it's not your responsibility to manage them or to smooth things over so they feel comfortable. The discernment of knowing what is and isn't yours is vital to keeping your sanity. A question to ponder: Who are the people you spend the most time with, and when you're with them or after you're with them, how do you feel? Answering this may highlight some potential shifts with who you surround yourself with.

Your Time

Congratulations on managing your time and energy. Perhaps this is through saying no, and perhaps through radical self-care, which includes how you share your time. The key is making sure you have balance in your day and that when things come up that take you away from what you've got planned, once they're taken care of, you get back on track.

We're all on our own unique path, with our own life lessons. Taking on what's really someone else's takes both you and the other away from your selves. When you say no to the things that aren't yours, you're able to thrive in the open space of possibility. When we try to drive every moment, we lose the connection to the magic that wants to come through. There's a reason why we're told to put on our own oxygen masks first.

You may find yourself temporarily drawn away from your own self-care or your own list. However, if it's a more long-term situation, what can you let go of? Even one thing. Filling up your days with things that may not be yours or that are busy work takes you away from your inherent power. When you look at each item on your to-do list, ask, "is it really mine?" Be honest with your answer. What can you delegate even if the other person won't do it as well as you? What can you drop all together?

We're all on our own unique path, with our own life lessons. Taking on what's really someone else's takes both you and the other away from your selves. When you say no to the things that aren't yours, you're able to thrive in the open space of possibility. When we try to drive every moment, we lose the connection to the magic that wants to come through. There's a reason why we're told to put on our own oxygen masks first.

You are not Super Woman and you were never meant to be. Society likes to make us feel like we need to be everything to everyone and do super-human tricks through the constant barrage of messages that make us feel lesser-than if we don't live up to an "ideal." You don't always need to be running full-out. The only measurement to live by is your own. What one obligation can you let go of today to free you up for something you really want to do?

We're all on our own unique path, with our own life lessons. Taking on what's really someone else's takes both you and the other away from your selves. When you say no to the things that aren't yours, you're able to thrive in the open space of possibility. When we try to drive every moment, we lose the connection to the magic that wants to come through. There's a reason why we're told to put on our own oxygen masks first.

The Past

Mistakes are meant to be made, and then cleaned up, especially when others are affected. One of the healthiest things you can do is to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and learn from your experience in order to not repeat patterns.

We all learn by doing. It's part of the human experience. It's been through play and some of the greatest mistakes that inventions and new ways of being were created. Sometimes the best of intentions go awry. If there are amends to make for a situation, do it in a way that doesn't cause any further harm and work to let it go. Consider that everything can be a learning experience, one from which you get to choose how you use the information as you move forward, today, differently.

Do you say things to yourself in ways you'd never say to a friend? Self-castigation keeps you stuck in an endless loop. Life happens. To learn to get out of the loop, pick a word you want to use to flip your thoughts. When you hear yourself start to say something negative to yourself, stop and say the word. Then say or think of something nice. You can't change the past, but you can change the way you see it.

We all learn by doing. It's part of the human experience. It's been through play and some of the greatest mistakes that inventions and new ways of being were created. Sometimes the best of intentions go awry. If there are amends to make for a situation, do it in a way that doesn't cause any further harm and work to let it go. Consider that everything can be a learning experience, one from which you get to choose how you use the information as you move forward, today, differently.

Perfection is an illusion and something that will never exist. Being a Monday-morning quarterback, and doing a replay in your mind of the past with current day knowledge will keep you stuck in old cycles. Can you see that you made the best decision with the information you had at the time, even if you'd do it differently now? Can you forgive and love your younger self for being human? You can use the wisdom and knowledge of the past to create something different and let yourself off the merry-go-round..

We all learn by doing. It's part of the human experience. It's been through play and some of the greatest mistakes that inventions and new ways of being were created. Sometimes the best of intentions go awry. If there are amends to make for a situation, do it in a way that doesn't cause any further harm and work to let it go. Consider that everything can be a learning experience, one from which you get to choose how you use the information as you move forward, today, differently.

The Present

When each person takes responsibility for their emotions, there can be an easy feeling of being together. The quality of your interactions deepens when you're not dealing with unresolved drama and old stories. Open and honest conversations are a gift.

Relationships based on a faulty foundation won't ever be able to truly support you. Sometimes the family you create is beyond that of your bloodline. When you surround yourself with people who support your uniqueness and want to see you thrive, you're better able to focus on what's most important today. Be grateful for the awareness of being exactly where you are, knowing you always have the option to make new choices.

You may have had a dream of a close-knit family that didn't materialize in a way you expected. Rules may have been put in place when you were younger in order for the rule-maker to feel a certain way. As an adult, is following the old rule an obligation you want or need to carry forward? Is it really yours, or a leftover from older days? You don't have to carry the weight of the past in the present. You always have a choice regardless of someone else's expectations.

Relationships based on a faulty foundation won't ever be able to truly support you. Sometimes the family you create is beyond that of your bloodline. When you surround yourself with people who support your uniqueness and want to see you thrive, you're better able to focus on what's most important today. Be grateful for the awareness of being exactly where you are, knowing you always have the option to make new choices.

You may have been taught that family stays together through thick and thin. If the weight of the obligation feels out of balance, is it worth carrying? Things may not have felt fair, but you don't have to carry the old story. Is there something you need to grieve or express in order to move on? It's OK to express what you may have held inside. This is how you begin to free yourself of the past in the present. Clearing the old creates space for something new.

Relationships based on a faulty foundation won't ever be able to truly support you. Sometimes the family you create is beyond that of your bloodline. When you surround yourself with people who support your uniqueness and want to see you thrive, you're better able to focus on what's most important today. Be grateful for the awareness of being exactly where you are, knowing you always have the option to make new choices.

The Future

What thoughts are driving you? It may not have felt safe to dream when you were younger, especially if you grew up around any kind of trauma. Many times, when we're young, we turn off curiosity in order to try to control the world around us. Is there an old story you're ready to let go of in order to call in something new? When was the last time you made a wish upon the clouds in the sky?

Playing what-if opens you to possibilities you may not have seen before. We each have multiple potential paths ahead of us and this is where you get to play in the space of co-creation. The key is to connect with the essence of what you want to create and not get too focused on how or when it will happen. This is where you can sit in the space knowing - what is meant for you will never be withheld. What one step can you take today, driven by what's in your heart, to bring you closer to what you want to call into your life?

Perhaps in the past you wished for something that came true and then it was taken away. Or maybe it never came to fruition. So, it may feel safer to not dream or create a vision in order to not be disappointed. If there was nothing in your way, what would you want to create for yourself?

Playing what-if opens you to possibilities you may not have seen before. We each have multiple potential paths ahead of us and this is where you get to play in the space of co-creation. The key is to connect with the essence of what you want to create and not get too focused on how or when it will happen. This is where you can sit in the space knowing - what is meant for you will never be withheld. What one step can you take today, driven by what's in your heart, to bring you closer to what you want to call into your life?

Is there anything that stops you from going all out? How would your life look and feel to experience your dreams 10X?

Playing what-if opens you to possibilities you may not have seen before. We each have multiple potential paths ahead of us and this is where you get to play in the space of co-creation. The key is to connect with the essence of what you want to create and not get too focused on how or when it will happen. This is where you can sit in the space knowing - what is meant for you will never be withheld. What one step can you take today, driven by what's in your heart, to bring you closer to what you want to call into your life?

A note from Stephanie B. McAuliffe, Founder & CEO:

Thank you so much for taking The Way of the Diamond Warrior assessment.

I’m curious about what insights this brought to your attention, or perhaps a confirmation of where you are on your journey. I’d love to hear how this report resonates with you.

The truth is, as life shifts, how you answer the questions will shift. Awareness is a vital aspect on your journey to healing and clearing old energies and stories, and to crafting your life with purpose.

With Gratitude, Stephanie

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