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When It’s Not Benign: The Gift of Love

When It’s Not Benign: The Gift of Love

I’ve been in judgment of my body for as long as I can remember. There’s a saying that when I point a finger, three are pointing back at me. In this case though, when I’m in judgment of some aspect of self, it’s not just four fingers pointing at me, it’s me pointing at...

How Are You?

How Are You?

It’s an age-old question that we use to open up conversations. But when you have something deeper going on, being asked this question isn’t always so innocent. Sometimes there’s an underlying, “what’s going on?” This journey of breast cancer is breaking me open in...

When It’s Not Benign: The Object of My Breast

When It’s Not Benign: The Object of My Breast

There’s a fascination with women’s breasts that goes back for millennia. They’re vessels via which we feed our babies. So they’re important from a childrearing perspective. But other than fun to play with, they’re a body part that many times requires extra articles of...

The Rules of Silence

The Rules of Silence

You will never be able to win your game as long as you’re playing by someone else’s rules. Why boundaries are vital to your being. I’m not typically interested in royal shenanigans. They’re human just like us, but with a lot more money and level of prestige greater...

You Are A Divine Being

You Are A Divine Being

You are a divine being. If you’d said this to me even six months ago, I would have said no, turned around and walked away. Even through all of the “work” I’d done to clear my past, I didn’t believe I was worthy of this. Yet it’s our birthright. We are all born of...

My Love-Hate Relationship with Christmas

My Love-Hate Relationship with Christmas

Magic happened every night when our Christmas tree was lit up. Looking at the lights on the tree, the reflection of the ornaments, I saw into the possibilities. The anticipation of what would be. I remember the gifts, all carefully wrapped. We expressed our connection...

Thank You, But No

Thank You, But No

The holidays are here and there’s a push to gather. Many of us haven’t been together in person for what feels like a really long time. Some have made the decision to stay home. Others have decided to celebrate the holiday, together. And because the rest of the family...

What’s Driving You?

What’s Driving You?

Do you know where your thoughts and energy are taking you? It’s a vital question to explore and to understand. Here in the U.S., we’re a week out of the election and more divided than ever. I’ve been watching with great interest and it’s a fascinating study in human...

You’re (Not) Responsible

You’re (Not) Responsible

What does being responsible mean? Depending on your perspective, it may take you in any number of directions. The root of the word responsible originated in the 1590’s ~ to be answerable, to another or for something. With it, comes a sense of obligation. For many,...